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Welcome to "TheThinkingPlace.Com.
The material in this website represents the in-process culmination of my life’s work — the organization and condensation of some of the most useful, practical knowledge on human behavior and interpersonal relationships — it's a thinker's paradice — motivational, inspirational, life-affirming, educational, and thought-provoking.
Introducing my latest book, titled...

"Relationship Compatibility Checklist"

Is it time to move in, move out, or run for the hills?

What is it?

  • Not only is it an extraordinary non-threatening communication facilitator, it's the ultimate red flag finder. It is not an advice book.
  • Read this book and you will never again spend weeks, months or years dating the wrong people.
  • If happily married, you'll learn things about yourself and your partner you might otherwise not learn in a lifetime.
  • View and share the introductory video below, and join me in helping to make the world a kinder, nicer, more compatible place, one couple at a time. Enjoy.
• Great gift idea • Ideal book-club choice • Can even be made into a fun home party game.

Thinking Matters

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Thoughts on Thinking & Attitude
"Sow a thought you’ll reap an attitude. Sow an attitude you’ll reap a habit. Sow a habit you’ll reap a character. And sow a character and you’ll reap a destiny." —G. D. Boardman ; Charles Reade
Word Stuff
False equivalency — claiming that two crimes are equally grievous because they have something in common, for example "speeding" even though in one case they were five miles over the limit, in the other they were doing 120 under the influence. It's often referred to as comparing apples to oranges, it's an unreasonable comparison.
Survey Question
Which is more important in a President? — A. their policies, B. their character and integrity, C. their party affiliation, D. their political and governing experience? Email your response to info@thethinkingplace.com
Minding Your Mind Mental Health & Happiness
If you're looking for happiness, there's only one place to look, that's inside your own head. Happiness is intimately related to the attitudes and beliefs that dominate your thinking. T.Y.
Psychological Facts of Life
"You are the person responsible for how you feel. You feel what you think, and you can learn to think differently about anything—if you decide to do so. Ask yourself if there is a sufficient payoff in being unhappy, down, or hurt. Then begin to examine, in depth, the kind of thoughts that are leading you to these debilitating feelings." —Dr. Wayne W. Dyer
Solonisms — Thoughts by T.Y.
Getting what you want out of life is only half the battle; the other half is getting it at your own pace. —T.Y. The Art of living well is found in the Acronym for ART — Attitude, Relationships & Thinking. T.Y.
Just for Fun
There are 10 senses — sight, smell, taste, touch, hearing, 6th sense, horse sense, common sense, sense of humor, and nonsense. —Source Unknown
Life Lessons & Reminders
Life is a journey, not a destination. It's a marathon not a sprint. Slow down, take a breath, pacing is the name of the game, don’t burn yourself out. T.Y.
About Relationships
They say it takes at least 18 months to get to know somebody. Can it be done in less? Absolutely.
How? Read my book, titled Relationship Compatibility Checklist, available on Amazon. View introductory video on YouTube or view above on this website.
Quote for The Day
From my first book, Quotations To Help You —"Man adapts himself to everything, to the best and the worst. To one thing only does he not adapt himself; to being not clear in his own mind what he believes about things." —José Ortega y Gasset

The Thinker’s Edge

Expand Your Mind

Click below to see web-views of recent mailers titled...
The Thinker's Edge, our complimentary mailer, published about twice a month, features an article or a major topic of interest by T.Y. (Thoughtfully Yours), plus thought-provoking short bits. Click here to subscribe. It's not a newsletter, no dog or cat pictures, no pictures of what I ate for dinner last night, or people you don't know, only thought-provoking, motivational, inspirational content. Click here to see Reviews Click here to reach us on Facebook, also not newsy, only posts of thoughtful content. PS: Please share this website and the Relationship Compatibility Checklist video at the top, and help make the world a more thoughtful, compatible place, one viewer, one couple at a time.

"Making It Happen"

"Making It Happen" is the name of my old 40-Hour Seminar. "The Mighty Mind Expander" is an audio condensation of this seminar. This section will feature favorite excerpts on the following topics: relationships — how to change habits & attitudes — popular psychology — emotions & needs — communications — time-management — decision-making — problem-solving — motivation — goal-setting — personal organization — mind-management — success & happiness — affirmations — acronyms — tips on preparing sales presentations — philosophy — some humor — thinking tips — and some thoughtful odds & ends. It's called "Making It Happen," not 'make it happen,' because life is an ongoing process, not a destination. This may be one of the most important things I learned, and have since internalized, when first getting involved in the self-development field. Published by Why Not? Publications, this material is the in-process culmination of a life’s work — the organization and condensation of some of the most useful, practical knowledge on human behavior and interpersonal relationships — representing almost over 50 years of research. It is not a "rah-rah," "you can do it" kind of seminar. Instead, it's a thinking experience. When presented live, it was supported by 1,500 slides and EPS, my Electronic Polling System. It's rentable. Click here for more information. What this seminar and website are really about... is you and your life. It's about what goes on in your mind as you think about your goals, dreams, hopes, and wishes, as well as your fears, doubts, worries, and insecurities. It's about change and expectations, acceptance and reconciliation, love, trust, and fulfillment in all 8-areas of life, mental, physical, emotional, spiritual, social, financial, family, and career. Ultimately, it's designed to help you talk to yourself in a language that you can understand and trust.

With these ideas you can re-style your mind-style and redesign your lifestyle. Although we all have the potential for making it happen, there are nevertheless three kinds of people — those who are making it happen, those who are not, and those who have good intentions. The differences between them is what the seminar is all about. It's the “slight-edge” for minds that matter. Visit often and join me on my journey as I rethink and reaffirm the most important thoughts that have helped my departed wife Bryna and I stay sane and happy throughout our lives, even during the most difficult of times. See you soon.

About the Author

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Dear Visitor,
My name is Mel Solon. I’ve been in the motivation, personal-development field since 1971. Prior to that, I was a CPA and a stockbroker. After five tax seasons, I was taxed to my limits. When the stock market crashed during broker training, I saw it as a sign and began navel-gazing and contemplating my future. Soon thereafter, I discovered the self-development field.
I am not a therapist, a psychologist, nor a spiritual leader. What I am is an exceptionally good organizer who has spent a career, organizing and sharing practical self-help knowledge through my live seminars, my personal organization system, my 90-minute audio seminar, and my two books.
My first book, “Quotations To Help You—From Out of Their Minds” contains 8,540 screened and vetted quotations of ageless wisdom. It's like thousands of psychology, philosophy, and self-help books all rolled into one. View videos.
My second book, the “Relationship Compatibility Checklist,” a relationship handbook for thinkers, was written to honor Bryna, my departed beloved wife, best friend, as well as my business partner during much of our lives.
Bryna passed in 2016, weeks after our 50th anniversary, following a courageous battle with ALS, Lou Gehrig’s Disease. She was my life, my motivation, and my inspiration for writing this book. To learn more about our book, and hear the unique story of how we met, view the introductory video to the "Relationship Compatibility Checklist." To learn more about Bryna's battle with ALS, listen to "In Pursuit of a Miracle." Click here to hear her reflections and attitude upon hearing the news..."You have ALS." While she is no longer here physically, we commited to someday writing a book on relationships, based on lessons learned in our 50-year marriage, plus a half-century of research on the subject of personal growth. The "Relationship Compatibility Checklist" is that book, a fun, easy to use tool designed to provoke thought and stimulate conversation about life and the dynamics of interpersonal relationships. Its purpose is threefold: 1. increase the happy marriage rate while reducing the divorce rate, 2. save people from the heartache of ever again having to say, “If only I knew then what I know now,” and 3. help make the world a kinder, nicer, more compatible place. The "Relationship Compatibility Checklist" can accomplish this, and much, much more. See video. To purchase our book, go to Amazon.Com.
Positively,
Mel Solonmel@thethinkingplace.com