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  • "This book is a must. Should be on everyone's gift list. Every dating site, therapist, and life coach needs to give this book to their clients." M.G.
  • Certified Personal Coach
"What an insightful, almost genius idea. Allows one to get to know themselves better. If you do not know you, how will you be able to be fully present to another. A terrific party book. A Winner." D.D. My website can help you save weeks, months, or years dating the wrong people. My website can help you spot red flags and deal breakers and help you avoid making the biggest mistake of your life.
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  • "This book is the most comprehensive guide to uncovering potential partnership issues due to differences in values, goals, needs, or desires. Decide, using the adult part of your brain, if you have enough in common to be in a fulfilling relationship, instead of discovering months or years later that you never really knew what you were getting into." B.S.
  • My website can help you save, mend, or revitalize a troubled relationship. My website can help you turn a good relationship into the relationship of your dreams.
Community Coordinator
"My wife and I have been intimately involved for the past 26 years in helping married couples mend their broken relationships. The video is not only very informative but eye-opening as well, whether you are married or single. It has you think about what you thought you knew at such a different level of awareness. Thank you, Mel, for sharing your relationship wisdom." T.R.
Important Notes
  • Full Disclosure: The 60-minute video course above is free because it helps bring my book to life.
  • The book is $19.95, soon to be $24.95 — cheaper than a divorce at any price.
  • I highly recommend that you and your partner or love interest get your own copies of the "Relationship Compatibility Checklist," and work on them in pencil.
  • Consider the book as a perfect gift item, an exciting book club choice, and the heart of a creative home party game.
  • The purchase of my book includes a subscription to my content-laden newsletter, called "The Thinker's Edge."
Mediator
"As a longtime non-attorney mediator, I’ve worked with hundreds of divorcing couples, and for many, the reasons for the divorce are reasonably legitimate. But for others, I believe there were issues that could have been resolved. I think that for those folks, had they read your book before their marriage or during their marriage, many of them would have been able to “work things out.” P.W.

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  • My Book — Relationship Compatibility Checklist
My Course — The Dynamics of Relationship Compatibility

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PSYCHOLOGIST The “Relationship Compatibility Checklist” offers a structured, thoughtful framework to help couples engage in meaningful, emotional, intimate conversation covering one's heart, mind, and core values. Further, the book guides partners in exploring and identifying areas of incompatibility while offering reassurance when they are in tune and aligned. The video course is a valuable adjunct to the book. As a licensed psychologist, I am particularly impressed with how the course integrates information about attachment and Polyvagal theories, both foundational to healthy, secure intimacy. I often recommend this book to my clients and have given it to friends and family. I commend Mel for his passion and for creating a tool that truly makes the world a better place, one couple at a time! A.S.
TEACHER "This video course and Mel’s book are true relationship treasures. His video is very informative, and his book is very thorough. My husband and I accepted the lifeline from the Retrouvaille ministry to work on our marriage. Mel’s soul filling work is an extra life saver that will assist in helping our marriage thrive. We thank Mel deeply for his sacrifice and devotion in helping couples and the world communicate better. You are a gift to us. FYI Retrouvaille teaches us, 'marriage goes through 4 stages: romance, disillusionment, misery, awakening. Your work will keep us awake!!'" J.R.
PRODUCT SPOKES-PERSON "The Relationship Compatibility Checklist book is beyond brilliant. It's a great tool for really learning about the opinions, values & emotional makeup of a potential partner. Every question on so many topics will prompt great discussions. You can save so much wasted time by discovering red flags way before you make a commitment to someone. It's also very revealing even in a long-term relationship. The Relationship Compatibility course is essential to the well being of every couple or single person hoping to meet that special someone." M.P.G.
"My wife and I watched the video together. You have created an effective and amazing system that can help people make fewer relationship mistakes and help their relationships be as good as they possibly can be. Your book and video can help anyone know another person more fully, faster, better, and deeper than one can imagine." S.M.
"These tools can not only help guide you both through a myriad of trouble spots, but it can also help you build trust in yourself and each other. In short, the book and video not only present a new perspective on how to approach finding a healthy and wonderful relationship, but they also offer a host of ideas on how to make that relationship blossom." L.G.
"A chance encounter with Mel Solon led me to a deep well of clarity, insight, and emotional growth, which is something I’m endlessly grateful for. Whether you're catching butterflies, just setting sail in uncharted romantic waters, catching occasional choppy waves, or in the eye of the storm, the Relationship Compatibility Checklist is the port you're looking for." S.G.
"Thought provoking. Prompted insightful conversations between us, helping us to find out how compatible we really are. Conversations over dinner resulted in livelier conversations than talking about the weather or our schedules. Recommend it highly!." L.R.
"If only I had this book when I was in my twenties. it may have even changed the course of my life's journey. Loved it. So invaluable, I gifted it to one of my sons and his then fiancée, as well as to some other family members and to a few friends. Some of my friends also bought books for their family members." K.M.
"I needed this book before I chose my only wife. Relationships are life's greatest challenges. If I had had this book when I was younger, I could've avoided the biggest mistake of my life." B.L.
“Showed this book to my boyfriend and it helped me to have an open conversation about many controversial issues. Helped to clarify where we stand in our relationship and what our next step may be.” M.P.
"I listened in one sitting. Fabulous, it’s great. So much information that flowed. I liked the last slide: the end, or a new beginning." E.B.
"My partner of 6 years and I have been considering taking our relationship to the next level of commitment. Now there is no doubt that we were made for one another. We hear wedding bells." S.J.
"A very comprehensive tool but an easy and fun read. A must for any relationship, even a successful one. Makes you realize what’s really important in life.” S.D.
"As a happily married couple of 42 years, we found your video to be extremely informative and highly educational." M. & R. V.
"As a single man I can understand why so many marriages fail. Too many people focus on looks or career status or other things rather than deepdown compatibility." E.C.

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Relationship Question for the Day
From my book, Relationship Compatibility Checklist — BREAKING UP: Do most relationships break up over — A. big things, B. cumulative small things? — If your partner or potential love interest answered differently, would that be...an NI-Non-Issue — a PC-Potential Conflict — or, a DB — Deal Breaker?
Solonisms — Thoughts by T.Y.
Getting what you want out of life is only half the battle; the other half is getting it at your own pace. —T.Y.Getting what you want out of life is only half the battle; the other half is getting it at your own pace. —T.Y.Getting what you want out of life is only half the battle; the other half isxxxxxxxxx getting it
Word Stuff
"Prisoner's Dilemma” — The prisoner's dilemma is a paradox in decision analysis in which "two partner's in crime" acting in their own self-interests do not produce the optimal outcome. Each prisoner, not knowing if the other prisoner will or will not confess to reduce their personal penalty, each confesses to assure a reduced penalty, not understanding that the outcome obtained when both confess is worse for each other than the outcome they would have obtained had both remained silent.
Just for Fun
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Survey Question
Which is more important in a President? — A. their policies, B. their character and integrity, C. their party affiliation, D. their political and governing experience, E. their age, F. their recent results, G. their promises, or H. their international relationships. Email your response to info@thethinkingplace.com
Life Lessons & Reminders
Life is a journey, not a destination. It's a marathon, not a sprint. Slow down, take a breath, pacing is the name of the game, don’t burn yourself out. T.Y.Life is a journey, not a destination. It's a marathon not a sprint. Slow down, take a breath, pacing is the name of the game, don’t burn yourself out. T.Y.Life is a journey, not a destination. It's a marathon not a sprint.
Minding Your Mind Mental Health & Happiness
If you're looking for happiness, there's only one place to look, that's inside your own head. Happiness is intimately related to the attitudes and beliefs that dominate your thinking. T.Y. vvvvnnnIf you're looking for happiness, there's only one
About Relationships
Imagine the most useful and useable.book on relationship compatibility you may ever read, titled Relationship Compatibility Checklist, available on Amazon. It not only explains why the divorce rate of 40 to 50% hasn't improved in 50 years, it offers a solution you'll agree can dramatially increase the odds of making relationships work. For more information, view my introductory video on YouTube or my website, TheThinkingPlace.Com.
Psychological Facts of Life
"You are the person responsible for how you feel. You feel what you think, and you can learn to think differently about anything—if you decide to do so. Ask yourself if there is a sufficient payoff in being unhappy, down, or hurt. Then begin to examine, in depth, the kind of thoughts that are leading you to these debilitating feelings." —Dr. Wayne W. Dyer
Quote for The Day
From my first book, Quotations To Help You — "The adjusted individual is one who is able to fit readily into the normal patterns of his society, but it cannot be taken for granted that one who is adjusted is psychologically healthy." —Snell & Gail Putney From my first book, Quotations To Help You — "The adjusted individual is one who is able to fit readily into the

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"Making It Happen"

"Making It Happen" is the name of my old live 40-Hour Seminar. "The Mighty Mind Expander" is an audio condensation of the same. This section is a condensed version of "Making It Happen" including favorite excerpts on the following topics: relationships — how to change habits & attitudes — popular psychology — emotions & needs — communications — time-management — decision-making — problem-solving — motivation — goal-setting — personal organization — mind-management — success & happiness — affirmations — acronyms — tips on preparing sales presentations — philosophy — some humor — thinking tips — and some thoughtful odds & ends. It's called "Making It Happen," not 'make it happen,' because life is an ongoing process, not a destination. This may be one of the most important things I learned, and have since internalized, when first getting involved in the self-development field. Published by Why Not? Publications, this material is the in-process culmination of a life’s work — the organization and condensation of some of the most useful, practical knowledge on human behavior and interpersonal relationships — representing over 50 years of research. It is not a "rah-rah-hype, you can do it" kind of seminar. Instead, it's a thinking experience. When presented live, it was supported by 1,500 slides and EPS, my Electronic Polling System. It's rentable. Click here for more information. What this seminar and website are really about... is you and your life. It's about what goes on in your mind as you think about your goals, dreams, hopes, and wishes, as well as your fears, doubts, worries, and insecurities. It's about change and expectations, acceptance and reconciliation, love, trust, and fulfillment in all 8-areas of life, mental, physical, emotional, spiritual, social, financial, family, and career. Ultimately, it's designed to help you talk to yourself in a language that you can understand and trust.

With these ideas you can re-style your mind-style and redesign your lifestyle. Although we all have the potential for making it happen, there are nevertheless three kinds of people — those who are making it happen, those who are not, and those who have good intentions. The differences between them is what the seminar is all about. It's the “slight-edge” for minds that matter. As you continue to journey through your life, visit often and join me on my journey as I edit, rethink, and reaffirm the most important thoughts and ides that have helped me and my departed wife, Bryna, stay sane and happy throughout our lives, even during the most difficult of times. See you soon.

About the Author

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Dear Visitor,
My name is Mel Solon. I’ve been in the motivation, personal-development field since 1971. Prior to that, I was a CPA and a stockbroker. After five tax seasons, I was taxed to my limits. When the stock market crashed during broker training, I saw it as a sign and began contemplating my future. Soon thereafter, while navel-gazing and contemplating my future, I bumped into and fell in love with the self-development, popular-psychology field. Initially, I sold the products of others. Soon after, I began collecting, organizing, and condensing to essence what I considered to be some of the most useful practical knowledge on human behavior and interpersonal relationships.
I am not a therapist, a psychologist, nor a spiritual leader. What I am is an exceptionally good condenser and organizer who has spent a career organizing and sharing practical self-help knowledge through my live seminars, my personal organization system, my 90-minute audio seminar, and my two books.
My first book, "Quotations To Help You," was a book of 8,540 quotations of ageless wisdom indexed under 1,500 keywords with a focus on mental health and happiness, all organized like only an anal-retentive former CPA could imagine, including it’s own internal thesaurus. It's like thousands of psychology, philosophy, and self-help books all rolled into one. View video.
My second book, the “Relationship Compatibility Checklist,” a relationship handbook for thinkers, written to honor Bryna, my departed beloved wife, best friend, as well as my business partner during much of our lives.
Bryna passed in 2016, weeks after our 50th anniversary, following a courageous battle with ALS, Lou Gehrig’s Disease. She was my life, my motivation, and my inspiration for writing this book. To learn more about our book, and hear the unique story of how we met, view the introductory video to the "Relationship Compatibility Checklist." To learn more about Bryna's battle with ALS, listen to "In Pursuit of a Miracle." Click here to hear her reflections and attitude upon hearing the news..."You have ALS." While she is no longer here physically, we commited to someday writing a book on relationships, based on lessons learned in our 50-year marriage, plus a half-century of research on the subject of personal growth. The "Relationship Compatibility Checklist" is that book, a fun, easy to use tool designed to provoke thought and stimulate conversation about life and the dynamics of interpersonal relationships. Its purpose is four-fold: 1. increase the happy marriage rate while reducing the divorce rate, 2. save people from the heartache of ever again having to say, “If only I knew then what I know now,” 3 . save the reader from spending weeks, months or years dating the wrong people, and 4. help make the world a kinder, nicer, more compatible place. The "Relationship Compatibility Checklist" can help you accomplish this, and much, much more. See video. To purchase our book, go to Amazon.Com.
Positively,
Mel Solonmel@thethinkingplace.com